Please Stop Asking If I am Okay

[Judd]

I saw Bob this morning. He looked okay.

[rcannon100]

@lawgrad12 165257 wrote:

You’re being incredibly rude. We should be thankful that people are showing a small touch of altruism and making sure a stranger is ok. I know a rider’s whose life was saved by a bystander when he started feeling weak, sat next to his bike, and had an MI that progressed into cardiac arrest. But for the bystander kind enough to check on him and initiate CPR, he’d be dead. So, show a little bit of gratitude and stop being a jerk.

(I don’t have many posts here, but I’ve been reading this forum for years)

I hate to say it but you made my point. I was not feeling weak. I was not in cardiac arrest. I had no need of CPR. I have ABSOLUTELY no sign of being in need. None. And I agree with you, if someone looks like there are in distress, if they are having a heart attack, it is wonderful if you offer help.

I was sitting next to my bike waiting for a class to begin. I was in fact on my smart phone writing an email. I was very relaxed waiting for someone. (Please read this thread before you call me rude). Any time I sit next to my bike, I get asked if I am okay, like I am enfeebled. Its an aspersion. It is an intrusion. It is a statement that sitting next to your bike means you are in distress. Utter bullshit. And yet it happens over and over and over. And it really needs to stop. As I said, earn your Good Samaritan merit badge somewhere else. But if there is absolutely NO REASON to ask some is okay – dont do it. Sitting next to your bicycle in and of itself – with no sign of distress – is not a reason.

No, I am not being rude. Rude is looking at someone who is perfectly 100% fine – and asking (over and over and over again) “are you okay??”

As for stop being a jerk, well, that would require a great deal more maintenance.

[bentbike33]

@rcannon100 165357 wrote:

I was in fact on my smart phone writing an email.

Hmm. So much for my theory. Unless you, like me when I ride, were wearing single-vision glasses thus forcing you to squint quizzically at the phone. Maybe they thought you needed help with the phone?

[drevil]

Your helmet doesn’t happen to look like this, does it?

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[lordofthemark]

@rcannon100 165357 wrote:

. It is a statement that sitting next to your bike means you are in distress.

Last night I saw many people sitting next to their bikes. I asked them if they were okay, or needed anything. A couple asked me if emailing a picture of their count results was good enough, and I said sure. One complained about bugs, but turned down my offer to ride off after bug spray.

On Saturday I will be sitting next to my bike. As will several of us in Alexandria. With note pads. I will not speak for the folks I have dragooned into this, but if you pass me, and want me to be okay, I will probably not turn down a cold drink, a fudge brownie, or even a high five. If you feel you want to do more, I won’t object to a full tune up on the bike.

[Harry Meatmotor]

rcannon100;165357 wrote:

i was not feeling weak.

“sir! Do you require motorized assistance???”

[MFC]

In all fairness, the suggestion that people should at least look to see if someone needs help, is reasonable, and I guess most people on this forum can tell when someone needs help and when someone is just chilling. However, asking it does not seem like the type of behavior to get upset about.

[ian74]

@rcannon100 165357 wrote:

I hate to say it but you made my point. I was not feeling weak. I was not in cardiac arrest. I had no need of CPR. I have ABSOLUTELY no sign of being in need. None. And I agree with you, if someone looks like there are in distress, if they are having a heart attack, it is wonderful if you offer help.

I was sitting next to my bike waiting for a class to begin. I was in fact on my smart phone writing an email. I was very relaxed waiting for someone. (Please read this thread before you call me rude). Any time I sit next to my bike, I get asked if I am okay, like I am enfeebled. Its an aspersion. It is an intrusion. It is a statement that sitting next to your bike means you are in distress. Utter bullshit. And yet it happens over and over and over. And it really needs to stop. As I said, earn your Good Samaritan merit badge somewhere else. But if there is absolutely NO REASON to ask some is okay – dont do it. Sitting next to your bicycle in and of itself – with no sign of distress – is not a reason.

No, I am not being rude. Rude is looking at someone who is perfectly 100% fine – and asking (over and over and over again) “are you okay??”

As for stop being a jerk, well, that would require a great deal more maintenance.

You know, you really don’t sound okay.

[rcannon100]

@ian74 165391 wrote:

You know, you really don’t sound okay.

I assure you I am 100% okey dokey

[Raymo853]

@rcannon100 161399 wrote:

[rant mode on]

The young guy doesnt get asked.

Back when I was young, that was not true. I also have needed help and had riders go by me without saying anything nor even looking at me.

I once did ask two young women if they needed help (Central PA near Penn State) and the one say yes but then her friend started screaming about how just because they were women they did not need help. So I left.

[peterw_diy]

@rcannon100 165357 wrote:

Any time I sit next to my bike, I get asked if I am okay, like I am enfeebled. Its an aspersion. It is an intrusion. It is a statement that sitting next to your bike means you are in distress. Utter bullshit. And yet it happens over and over and over. And it really needs to stop. As I said, earn your Good Samaritan merit badge somewhere else.

Bob, if you find the kindness of strangers so unbearable, I think you should buy yourself some rollers and stay indoors. You’re starting to sound beyond grouchy.

[rcannon100]

So nice to see that the Good Samaritan posers have come out of hibernation

[infinitebuffalo]

this seems relevant.

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[n18]

That’s a bit rude with the bird image, and I am guessing you are being sarcastic. I am one of those who gets asked if I am OK frequently. It kind of stopped for me now, because I try one or all of these things:

1 – Look up at the sky, like bird watching.
2 – Pretend to drink from my bottle.
3 – Stop at spots with wider grassy areas, or trail intersection, and be far off; outside normal talk and hearing range.

When I do #3, I notice the so called friends resisting getting off the trail just to see if I am okay, some prefer to yell at the top of their lungs instead of getting off the trail, and they call themselves good Samaritan. One biked into the intersecting trail to ask me, and I am like oh nooooo! I guess I wasn’t worth getting into the grass for it.

[dkel]

@n18 177466 wrote:

That’s a bit rude with the bird image, and I am guessing you are being sarcastic.

I don’t know…Bob doesn’t look like that bird, but the rest is pretty much spot on.

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