Please Stop Asking If I am Okay
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June 12, 2017 at 7:42 pm #919478
rcannon100
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Alright, this beats a subject that we have visited before. But it has become REALLY ANNOYING.
I go out for a 30 mile ride. I push doing intervals. I take a break beside the trail.
And within seconds five people have stopped to ask if I am alright and if I need help.
STOP IT!
Okay, let me paint just a little more of the picture. No flat tire. No chain break. No damage to my bike. No accident. No blood. No torn clothes. There is not one hint, not one bit of evidence, nothing to suggest that I am having any difficulty whatsoever.
Yet if I stop beside the trail, obviously there must be something wrong with what I am doing. There has to be. If I sit on a bench on the WOD, or if I take a break in the shade, or if I stop to take off layers….. “Are you alright? Do you need help?” Something I am doing must be wrong after all I get bombarded with inquiries.
Oh yeah, can I also mention that this did not happen 2 years ago when I was not quite a gray beard. But now that I am a gray beard, if I dare to stop beside the trail – I must obviously be having an F’ing heart attack or something. I must be enfeebled. I must be in desperate need of assistance.
Really. Every single time. Multiple idiots trying to earn their good samaritan badges.
It patronizing. Its annoying and an intrusion. Its an aspersion that there must be something wrong with what I am doing.
The young guy doesnt get asked. The person who is just walking without a bicycle doesnt get asked. The person walking a dog doesnt get asked. And so on.
Please stop. Please earn your good samaritan badge somewhere else. Take two seconds before you bother someone and LOOK to see if there is anything about them that suggests that they need help.
June 12, 2017 at 7:46 pm #1072048TwoWheelsDC
ParticipantDon’t worry Bob, I’m happy to ignore you on the trail.
June 12, 2017 at 7:52 pm #1072049DSalovesh
ParticipantYou feeling okay, Bob?
June 12, 2017 at 7:53 pm #1072050rcannon100
ParticipantJune 12, 2017 at 7:57 pm #1072051eminva
ParticipantIt’s just their way of congratulating you for your victory in the “Grand Grand Grand Masters division.”
Liz
June 12, 2017 at 7:58 pm #1072052rcannon100
Participant@eminva 161403 wrote:
It’s just their way of congratulating you for your victory in the “Grand Grand Grand Masters division.”
Liz
Yup. The winner of the division gets a free colonoscopy! h o o r a y !
June 12, 2017 at 8:03 pm #1072053consularrider
ParticipantYou’re still just a young whippersnapper, so get off my lawn ya punk! :p
June 12, 2017 at 8:10 pm #1072055Rootchopper
ParticipantOoh, trailside colonoscopies!!!!
June 12, 2017 at 8:14 pm #1072056dkel
ParticipantI’m told that yelling incoherently and shaking your fist is effective in running off would-be samaritans, and that it doesn’t make you look like a crazy old codger at all.
June 12, 2017 at 8:16 pm #1072058Rootchopper
ParticipantNow that I think about it, the next cyclist who passes me and calls me “Sir” is askin’ for it. (Except I couldn’t catch them if my life depended on it.)
June 12, 2017 at 8:17 pm #1072059rcannon100
Participant@dkel 161408 wrote:
I’m told that yelling incoherently and shaking your fist is effective in running off would-be samaritans, and that it doesn’t make you look like a crazy old codger at all.
I have started taking a survey, asking people why they are asking me if I am okay – what it is about me that resulted in the offer of assistance. Generally its just “trying to be helpful.” M’eh.
June 12, 2017 at 8:29 pm #1072062drevil
Participant@rcannon100 161399 wrote:
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Oh yeah, can I also mention that this did not happen 2 years ago when I was not quite a gray beard. But now that I am a gray beard…[ATTACH=CONFIG]14957[/ATTACH]
June 12, 2017 at 9:01 pm #1072063TwoWheelsDC
ParticipantI generally only ask if the person clearly has a problem and look like they’re struggling to fix it. If a rider is calmly sitting in the shade fixing a flat or drinking some water or whatever, I usually ride on by. If the rider looks a bit flummoxed, I’ll ask if they have what they need (flummoxed could mean either lack of expertise to fix the problem or lack of tools). It’s subjective, but I generally err on the side of assuming people actively working on their bike on the trail have the capacity to fix it, and if they don’t look distressed they probably would prefer I don’t bug them.
I also am averse to being asked if I need help….so much so that when my front derailleur cable slipped, resulting in a major chain-suck a few weeks ago, I coasted to the nearest trail exit and fixed my bike in a cul de sac so no one would bother me.
June 12, 2017 at 9:05 pm #1072064anomad
ParticipantI would only stop to shout at you for being a woman or failing to file a Federal Register Notice before passing.
June 12, 2017 at 11:28 pm #1072068Harry Meatmotor
ParticipantNext time you pull off of the trail, just yell, “I’M NOT OKAY!!!” at every person than passes, and i’m sure you’ll get the solace and quiet you require.
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