Please Stop Asking If I am Okay

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  • #919478
    rcannon100
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    [rant mode on]

    Alright, this beats a subject that we have visited before. But it has become REALLY ANNOYING.

    I go out for a 30 mile ride. I push doing intervals. I take a break beside the trail.

    And within seconds five people have stopped to ask if I am alright and if I need help.

    STOP IT!

    Okay, let me paint just a little more of the picture. No flat tire. No chain break. No damage to my bike. No accident. No blood. No torn clothes. There is not one hint, not one bit of evidence, nothing to suggest that I am having any difficulty whatsoever.

    Yet if I stop beside the trail, obviously there must be something wrong with what I am doing. There has to be. If I sit on a bench on the WOD, or if I take a break in the shade, or if I stop to take off layers….. “Are you alright? Do you need help?” Something I am doing must be wrong after all I get bombarded with inquiries.

    Oh yeah, can I also mention that this did not happen 2 years ago when I was not quite a gray beard. But now that I am a gray beard, if I dare to stop beside the trail – I must obviously be having an F’ing heart attack or something. I must be enfeebled. I must be in desperate need of assistance.

    Really. Every single time. Multiple idiots trying to earn their good samaritan badges.

    It patronizing. Its annoying and an intrusion. Its an aspersion that there must be something wrong with what I am doing.

    The young guy doesnt get asked. The person who is just walking without a bicycle doesnt get asked. The person walking a dog doesnt get asked. And so on.

    Please stop. Please earn your good samaritan badge somewhere else. Take two seconds before you bother someone and LOOK to see if there is anything about them that suggests that they need help.

    #1072048
    TwoWheelsDC
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    Don’t worry Bob, I’m happy to ignore you on the trail.

    #1072049
    DSalovesh
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    You feeling okay, Bob?

    #1072050
    rcannon100
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    @DSalovesh 161401 wrote:

    You feeling okay, Bob?

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    #1072051
    eminva
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    It’s just their way of congratulating you for your victory in the “Grand Grand Grand Masters division.”

    Liz

    #1072052
    rcannon100
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    @eminva 161403 wrote:

    It’s just their way of congratulating you for your victory in the “Grand Grand Grand Masters division.”

    Liz

    Yup. The winner of the division gets a free colonoscopy! h o o r a y !

    #1072053
    consularrider
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    You’re still just a young whippersnapper, so get off my lawn ya punk! :p

    #1072055
    Rootchopper
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    Ooh, trailside colonoscopies!!!!

    #1072056
    dkel
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    I’m told that yelling incoherently and shaking your fist is effective in running off would-be samaritans, and that it doesn’t make you look like a crazy old codger at all.

    #1072058
    Rootchopper
    Participant

    Now that I think about it, the next cyclist who passes me and calls me “Sir” is askin’ for it. (Except I couldn’t catch them if my life depended on it.)

    #1072059
    rcannon100
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    @dkel 161408 wrote:

    I’m told that yelling incoherently and shaking your fist is effective in running off would-be samaritans, and that it doesn’t make you look like a crazy old codger at all.

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    I have started taking a survey, asking people why they are asking me if I am okay – what it is about me that resulted in the offer of assistance. Generally its just “trying to be helpful.” M’eh.

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    #1072062
    drevil
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    @rcannon100 161399 wrote:

    [rant mode on]
    Oh yeah, can I also mention that this did not happen 2 years ago when I was not quite a gray beard. But now that I am a gray beard…

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    #1072063
    TwoWheelsDC
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    I generally only ask if the person clearly has a problem and look like they’re struggling to fix it. If a rider is calmly sitting in the shade fixing a flat or drinking some water or whatever, I usually ride on by. If the rider looks a bit flummoxed, I’ll ask if they have what they need (flummoxed could mean either lack of expertise to fix the problem or lack of tools). It’s subjective, but I generally err on the side of assuming people actively working on their bike on the trail have the capacity to fix it, and if they don’t look distressed they probably would prefer I don’t bug them.

    I also am averse to being asked if I need help….so much so that when my front derailleur cable slipped, resulting in a major chain-suck a few weeks ago, I coasted to the nearest trail exit and fixed my bike in a cul de sac so no one would bother me.

    #1072064
    anomad
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    I would only stop to shout at you for being a woman or failing to file a Federal Register Notice before passing.

    #1072068
    Harry Meatmotor
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    Next time you pull off of the trail, just yell, “I’M NOT OKAY!!!” at every person than passes, and i’m sure you’ll get the solace and quiet you require.

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